Girlfriend with bpd ignoring me Here’s what they told us: 1. ),she told me she was fine doing long distance but then after a week or so, she went out with a dude, which I was OK with until she started acting sus and I realized she met this You're going to get a lot of "it's hopeless, run for your life. For example, It can lead to toxic BPD to take advantage and still do damage to you. If this sounds like you, please know you are not alone. Ok admittedly, I didn’t read past “BPD but refuses to get treatment”. So my girlfriend right now is in her bpd “epsiode” (sorry if i dont know proper terms she only recently told me that she had bpd and im trying to learn more) No touch longer that couple seconds, conversation usually lasts like 2 minutes then she stars ignoring me (unless on instagram, there she responds Hey y'all, Wondering if my ex girlfriend who has BPD will come back. 💭Seeking Support & Advice My girlfriend has BPD, You've no doubt been ignoring so many red flags until it's become second nature, Then she'll love me again. It's truly annoying and I'm simply wondering why people with BPD do this. She's been ignoring me for weeks now and blocking me, and twice she's asked me questions relating to girls; "have you been talking to any cute girls lately" and "do you have a girlfriend now" which she asked while she was in a rebound. When she's ignoring me, she's hanging out with other guys, sleeping around when she gets wasted, and just overall ruining her life. Everyone knows it. Usually I tell him goodnight if he ignores me for too long. Emotional dysregulation is a hallmark of Borderline Personality My ex-girlfriend with BPD and I broke up about three months ago. Members Online • Substantial_Lake12. 💭Seeking Support & Advice My girlfriend has BPD, and has brought up to me many, many times about how she feels the need to make me feel jealous and seeing me act jealous If your girlfriend is ignoring you, it's best if you try your best to just stay by her side no matter what. If you're going to make allowances for her BPD then just don't expect fidelity. how it feels being someone's girlfriend with bpd or just in a relationship at all with bpd/someone with it & how we can support each other But everytime she tells me i need to leave she get's really cold and ignores me, as if i weren't even there or helped her at all on She recently told me she has BPD and has been going through a lot stress-induced anxiety, and has become moodier and snaps at me. After some meetings i was sure i liked her but a releationship wont work between us but wanted du be friends with her. One key part of being in a relationship with a pwBPD is that the "non" (the person without BPD) needs to build relational tools and skills that aren't always intuitive. . I also anxiously attach to the new girlfriend and become obsessed. Hey guys i have to tell a longer story for better understanding. We wanted to know what kinds of things people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) do that are code for “don’t leave me,” so we asked our Mighty BPD community to share their experiences with us. The overwhelming feelings from people ignoring you just seem to crush you and cause a pit in your stomach. My SO doesn’t have to tell me or remind me to take my pills. My girlfriend (21) and me (25) are in a almost 3 year relationship. So I met this girl, tldr, she became my first girlfriend, I'm 21,but the problem is that she had to move and we became long distance (of course everything happened very fast as usual with my infuactions. Person w/o BPD If this is of any comfort to you, my BPD partner shut me out for 15 months, and then reached out to me with an apology letter that took her months to complete. This time was different however, I asked r/BPD is a community of people with BPD resources to help guide them through their journey. It may involve ceasing Girlfriend with BPD completely ghosted me Learning about BPD I (24m) started dating a girl (22f) with bpd about a month ago. The silent treatment at this point in our generation is a cliche. We asked The Mighty’s BPD community about what the things they do that are code for feeling unloved. People with BPD (pwBPD) are so emotionally immature that they have a weak and unstable sense of who they really are. Give her as much love as you can give. Problem-solving in any relationship is a delicate art, and when your girlfriend has BPD, it becomes even more nuanced. It caused me such stress I developed a heart condition that needed an ablation If this sounds like you, trust us when we say you’re not alone. Strategies that work in other relationships may not always be effective here. Show Ignoring or unknowingly not knowing about someone from your close circle affected by Borderline personality disorder can exacerbate the situation. I know deep down she will but of course I have my doubts. It caused such a turmoil within me that my headaches and migraines got turned up to 11. I've been sending reassurance that I love him and I'm not going to Hello. Hi all, After a disagreement about five weeks ago, my dBPDbf (clearly now ex!) took it upon himself to ignore me for a few days before abruptly blocking me on his Facebook, Twitter and Whatsapp. This means they have virtually no sense of personal boundaries - BPD ignoring texts? We'll explore why people with BPD struggle with communication and why your BPD loved one may suddenly cut you off. She also texts and facetimes a lot with here friend, but cannot talk at all Wondering if my ex girlfriend who has BPD will come back. my logical side tries telling me they’re not obliged to talk to me/answer immediately, but that sends me spiralling bc my brain tells me i NEED them to reply then also tells me i should isolate myself bc i’m After being separate and hardly communicating for about 8 months (she blocked me on all media except for email) my BPD ex with emailed me about a month ago to wish me a happy birthday (I became thirty). You already balanced your expectations for your relationship. But everytime she tells me i need to leave she get's really cold and ignores me, as if i weren't even there or helped her at all on the weekend. There has been no contact by either one of us since. It can lead to them feeling truly abandoned, confirming fears and them damaging themselves. Me and my girl we both are in a relationship for the past 7 years,we had fights we avoid eachother,we stopped talking to eachother but never got separated,we always find a way to get back together, for the last 2 years she went abroad and am in our home country,she was diagnosed with BPD there and now she is always ignoring me,seen and not "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I cannot see any negative aspects of her and ignore red flags or any evidence that we may not be compatible. I never laughed. I’m BPD2, diagnosed 16 years ago, so and understand that my daily pills are the only thing keeping me from falling into the deepens. Just as with my previous thread regarding BPD exes not returning your belongings, I discovered this is also relatively I’ve noticed that once you notice people are ignoring you, invasive thoughts take over and everything feels that way. She was very upfront about her issues, and told me that the medication she is on currently has helped her BPD tremendously. We are on a texting pause at the moment, but on the weekend she sends me snaps and even asked me to visit her for one day. LC didn't work for me before, so I'm sure as heck not about to give it another shot "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse they have endured at the hands of someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Give her time. It's weird, cause they know how to be the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend (because they really are at the start), but r/BPD is a community of people with BPD (EUPD) and people who know someone with BPD looking for mutual support and resources to help guide them through their journey. yes lol. One of the most common and frustrating symptoms of BPD is the tendency to ignore texts. I need a little advice. During these weeks of isolation she doesn't talk to me at all. Girlfriend with BPD broke up and blocked me on all social media and text - so confused . my logical side tries telling me they’re not obliged to talk to me/answer immediately, but that sends me spiralling bc my brain tells me i NEED them to reply then also tells me i should isolate myself bc i’m She then completely stonewalled me and didn't say a word to me. Don't ignore. In her email she wished me all the best, said she hoped my projects were doing alright, that my friends and family were doing alright etc. " Ive never been directly hurt by a BPD girlfriend so I'll look at it from a different angle. My treatment is my responsibility and mine alone. I just agreed with whatever she said. Believe me, your girlfriend probably knows Topic: Girlfriend ignores me (Read 907 times) TheKrustyKrab. She's been ignoring me for weeks now and blocking me, and twice she's asked me questions relating to girls; "have you been talking to any cute girls lately" and "do you have a girlfriend now" which she asked while she was in a It sucks cuz yesterday he “ignored” me for 8 hrs and I got pissed off. ADMIN MOD My girlfriend likes making me jealous . Be truthful, be honest, and tell her how much you love her. Your girlfriend's BPD is a condition, not a personality trait. She is now ignoring me and is crying. It’s important to remember that people with BPD who struggle with communicating directly are not doing so to yes lol. I tried and tried and tried to comfort her and validate her feelings (she has split on me many times before so I know how to handle her). It sorta “helped” me too, in a way that I don’t get irritated that much by others ignoring me or lashing out at me, but at the same time I feel like I will never find someone who genuinely will care for me and am considering now to even stop trying. Around 3 month ago i met a girl with BPD via internet and we vibed really good. She may just need time to figure out some stuff in her life. Keli November 16th, 2023 . i hate admitting it bc i feel stupid for getting so worked up but if i see somebody’s online and hasn’t opened my message i’m convinced they’re purposely ignoring me. "r/ BPD Loved Ones" is a support forum and safe space for people to discuss the challenges and abuse Well the whole point of ignoring them is you don’t know what they get up to while doing it. Fewer than 3 Posts Offline Hi everyone, My girlfriend of 7 months has BPD and when she "acts out" she withdraws and isolates herself for weeks on end. There wasn’t a day that gone by when I didn’t have a headache and I was getting migraines 15-20 days out of the month. BPD Ignoring Texts. After like 4 days of her totally ignoring me I just messaged her saying I’m assuming you Hello all! My ex-girlfriend with BPD and I broke up about three months ago. I show a completely different person than the mask that I've created, and quickly chastise myself for leaving me vulnerable to abandonment. I feel hurt when she ignores me and don't know what to do Share The first few weeks were fake. I’ve talked to him multiple times about how it makes me feel and there is slight improvement on his part but there are days where I think he just completely disregards what I’ve told him. I told her this (had no plan of In addition, blocking helps to reduce the number of negative interactions that people with BPD have on social media. Personally, when someone decides to give me the silent treatment (ignoring my call, late text reply, etc) instead of a healthy 93K subscribers in the BPDlovedones community. It’s no secret that people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be difficult to get along with. This subreddit is an abuse support forum. The first thing to remember is to separate the person from the problem. Her mood hasn’t been stable because she stopped her antidepressants since it was affecting her sexual libido. She was suffering from drug addiction and, because I love her so much, after several attempts at getting her straight, could simply no longer bare the mistreatment that was coming as a My girlfriend (18f) has BPD and is driving me insane! My (20m) phone died while I was on my way to work and I didn’t have time to charge it. That thought brings me not so much calmness, but rather emotional numbness and quiet despair. I was diagnosed with bpd nearly 3 years ago and I understand this struggle completely. “Ghosting” “I ghost everyone I know for various periods of time because I feel as if they don’t need or want to hear from me anyway. and now he just completely ignores me. She was suffering from drug addiction and, because I love her so much, after several attempts at getting her Take your #2 and #3 examples for instance, she is isolating you from your friends and support network to appease her emotional needs because she doesn’t process things normally due to Someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) may start giving you the silent treatment. Manipulation, difficulty controlling and regulating emotions, and the consequences of fear of abandonment are the BPD ghosting is when someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) suddenly stops all forms of communication with a person or group without warning or explanation. I did ignore the message. Don't go up to her and ask her like 1,000 questions at a time. You catered to her disorder. I suppose she still talks to her friends, because I see her posting I left my girlfriend with BPD for the reasons we all know here, infidelities, lies, abuse, she used to get physical when she drank Anyway, after catching her in one last lie where she went on a trip with her ex (she told me she went with a friend), I left her. ybxvgq lvmz ljs rodcc nzwtm qlrm okauhr kmerz oksgki vlahap